Letting Go

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Many people spend their entire lives believing that they are controlled by outside forces.

  • That they are bound by worry.
  • That they are bound by resentment.
  • That they are bound by something that happened in childhood.

The Truth is that thoughts don’t hold us, we hold thoughts.  We bind them to us like a cloak.  We wear our stories as if we ARE the story.  Often fearful of who we would be if we no longer carried them.

I held on tight to the story of my son’s Grand Entrance for 7 years.  It was painful, scary and kept me stuck.  I could bring up all of the fearful, hopeless thoughts complete with rapid heart beat and sweaty palms in an instant.  The darkness finally became so unbearable that I gathered all the courage I had and I let it go.  I dropped it.  And, my life became easier.  In fact, my life is now better than I ever thought it could be.

The Truth is that we have complete control over our thoughts.  We have the power to choose which thoughts we will entertain.  We have the power to refuse to give into the story.  We have the power to return again and again to the mindset that we are free to think what we choose.

We have the power to change our thoughts about a story

  • that will in turn change our feelings
  • that will in turn change our actions
  • that will in turn change the results we experience in life

Today’s mantra:  I AM in control of my thoughts.

 

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Wishing you well,

Tracy

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Shining Your Light

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Are you shining your light?  I mean really shining the light of who you truly are?

If you’re not sure, take a close look at your life.  What you are attracting?

Take a look at the people, the opportunities, the ideas that come your way.  Are they reflective of who you are deep down at the core of your being?

Do you even know who you are at the core of your being?  Do you know what your core values are?  If not, ask yourself this question.  At the end of your life.   What will matter most?

Maybe you know exactly what your core values are.  Are your actions in line with them?  Or is there some disharmony there?

What could you do to align your actions with your core values?  What is one action you could take today?

Try this:

  • Fold a piece of paper in half
  • Make a list of core values on the left
  • Edit them. Cross out the ones that aren’t really yours.  (many of our values are acquired from childhood, relationships, society)
  • For each core value, write down an action step to support that core value on the right.  Ex. If family is a core value, your action step may be to secure family time on your calendar
  • Choose one core value and take that action step

So, start aligning Mama.  Your light will begin to shine brilliantly once your actions align with your core values.  Let your children witness the brilliance of their #1 model.  It will give them permission to shine too.

 

Wishing you well,

Tracy

 

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You are right!

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Life is interesting isn’t it?  The yin and yang of this human experience.

Light and dark

Good and bad

Possible and impossible

We are conditioned to believe that it has to be one way or another.  But, what if what we are telling ourselves is not true?

It was Henry Ford who once said “whether you think you can or you think you can’t you’re right.”

What if we could see the good in the bad?

Shine the light on the dark?

Create the possible out of the perceived impossible?

As rigorous as life becomes at times, we can always count on the fact that the sun always rises.

What if we were to clear our limiting beliefs simply by changing our thoughts about any circumstance that comes our way?

Think about the power in that.  And, realize that you have that power within you.

What brings you life?

If you didn’t think something was impossible, what would you do?

Write that book?

Make that phone call?

Love more fully?

Ask yourself “What can I do today?”  And, do it!

 

Wishing you well,

Tracy

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Patterns

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Did you know that we have close to 60,000 thoughts a day?  Some of them are just bizarre, most of them are the same thoughts we had yesterday and most of those are negative.  They are the very thoughts that create our human suffering.  They create our worry, fear, anger, sadness…

Negative thoughts are patterns, habits.  The mind loves patterns.  These patterns eventually become limiting beliefs that can rob us of our joy if we let them.

Thoughts create Feelings.

Feelings create Actions.

Actions create Results.  What our life is like.

Good news!  We have complete control over our thoughts.  In fact, it is the only thing we do have complete control over.  It takes constant practice.  Like working a muscle.  But it is as simple as replacing the negative thoughts with positive, empowering ones.  Simple but not easy, that is.

It helps to have a list of replacement thoughts.  A list of thoughts we can turn to when the negative ones creep in, as they are prone to do.

Try this:

  1. WRITE:  Fold a piece of paper in half the long way.  On the left make a list of 10 negative thoughts and on the right make a list of positive, empowering thoughts that you can use to replace the negative ones.
  2. PAUSE: When you notice a negative thought, pause and re-frame  it.  Insert one of the new, empowering thoughts.
  3. PRACTICE, practice, practice

It’s all about noticing what you’re noticing.  Noticing that you are having a negative thought is progress, my friends!  It’s the first step in changing a habit.  So celebrate it and keep noticing.

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A Brand New Baby Day

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Morning.  Early Morning.  Before my family wakes.  Is my favorite time of day.

In the quiet stillness.  The dawn of a new day of life.

It’s my time.  To fill my cup.  To feed my mind, my body and my soul.

It isn’t always easy, this rising and shining.  Many mornings I just don’t feel like leaving a delightful dream, the comfort of my bed, the warmth of my husband next to me.  But I have made a commitment to myself.  To my own self-care.  For making more time in the day just for me.

I am always rewarded.  Always grateful.  That I thought enough of me to give myself this gift of a morning.

My morning ritual has changed here and there.  With the needs of my soul.  With the season of my life.  With whatever I may be dabbling in at the time.  But the elements are pretty much the same.  They feed me, sustain me, give me the strength I sometimes need to move through my day.

My Absolute YES!

  1. A Brisk Walk to connect with nature and my own physical form
  2. Yoga to reunite my mind, body and soul
  3. Meditation to harmonize with my own life essence
  4. Gratitude to align myself with the generosity of the Universe
  5. Dreaming to explore the endless possibilities that are available to me

A new day.

A fresh start.

How glorious!

I can choose, this day, to see the world differently.

 

Wishing you well,

Tracy

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The Inner Mean Girl

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I have an inner mean girl.

She’s critical.  She’s judgmental.  She’s ruthless.

She tries her best to talk me out of any good I seek.

“Just trying to keep you safe,” she says.

She keeps me on my toes, making sure I do it all just right.

Not a hair out of place, not a misspoken word.

“Don’t let them see your imperfections,” she’ll say.

She likes patterns.  Failure is her favorite.

“See”, she says.  “You don’t have what it takes.”

She finds endless examples to support her case.

If I let her she will beat me into submission.

 

I have an inner advocate.

She’s kind.  She’s caring.  She’s compassionate.

“I love you,” she’ll say.  “You are perfect just the way you are.”

She’s incredibly powerful.  A badass.

“You can move mountains,” she says.  “You ARE doing it.”

She’s supportive.  She urges me to take bold, brave steps in the direction of my dreams.

“It’s ok,” she says, “step out of your comfort zone.  I’ll be here by your side.”

She’s a bit quieter than my inner mean girl but she is always with me.

She’s as dependable as the rising sun.

And, the more I summon her, the richer my life becomes.

 

Wishing you well,

Tracy

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The Gift of Forgiveness

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Do you ever find yourself returning to the same incident in your mind over and over again?  Maybe it happened an hour ago, 2 years ago, 20 years ago, maybe even in childhood?  You find yourself returning to the scenario, often spinning tall tales about how it could have been different, how it could have been avoided, what you should have said, how wrong the other person was.  You find yourself feeling resentment towards another person or yourself.  No matter how hard you try, you find it difficult to let it go.

Forgiveness is a natural remedy for resentment, regardless of how unnatural it may feel.  The word forgiveness can conjure up some strong emotions.  There is a misunderstanding that forgiveness means that we should release someone for doing something that may have even been a horrific act.  That we make whatever they did OK.  Forgiveness is NOT for the other person.  It is absolutely NOT to make whatever they did OK.

Forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves.  It is the gift of freeing up the valuable space in our minds that could be used for something constructive like solving problems, being present with another human being, feeling joy or creating dreams for our future.  It also frees us up from returning to those emotional and physiological feelings that just don’t feel good in our bodies and that can often be harmful.

I didn’t always know this.  As a matter of fact, I thought I had been “practicing forgiveness” for many, many, MANY years.  I couldn’t figure out why the resentment never really went away.  I now understand that forgiveness is a daily practice.  As long as we are breathing, we have something to forgive.  It’s like peeling back the layers of an onion.  We peel back a layer only to see that there is another layer behind it.

In the process of breaking apart my own life some years ago I learned some invaluable tools for forgiveness.  I had the good fortune of practicing my new tools on a person in my life with whom I was experiencing quite a bit of resentment.  Whenever this person came into my awareness, and at the time it was a lot, my throat would become constricted, my shoulders would drift toward my ears and I would begin to feel a defensive shift in my body, it was quite uncomfortable.  I realized one day, after I had been practicing my new tools daily, that I didn’t have that uncomfortable feeling as much anymore.  It was a marked difference for me.  It felt as if a weight had been lifted from me and I was able to see this person in a whole new light.

Ho’oponopono is one these practices.  It is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness.  It is simple but powerful.  It involves saying the following 3 phrases quietly in the mind, repeatedly.  Sometimes it takes a few rounds to feel the shift and sometimes it requires many.  Done regularly, it can change your life!

“I AM Sorry…Please Forgive Me”

“Thank you…I Am Grateful”

“I Love You”

By saying I’m Sorry…Please Forgive Me, I am acknowledging judgement and asking forgiveness for this judgement.

By saying Thank You…I AM Grateful, I am expressing gratitude for the opportunity to clear resentful thoughts.

By saying I Love You, I am generating a sense of joy, happiness and abundance.

Wishing you well!

Tracy

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100 Ways

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One of the best ways I’ve found to generate joy in my life is my gratitude practice.

I do it first thing in the morning as part of my morning ritual.

In my dedicated gratitude journal, every day.

I review the day before and create a simple list of 10 things I am grateful for.

Sometimes the items on the list are as basic as being grateful for my gratitude practice.

Other times they may involve something more complex, such as the day after my accident.

On that day, I was grateful for my life, that my children were snug in their beds at the time, and so much more.

Some days it is a challenge, depending on my thought management.

But it always helps me to see things differently.

To find the good, the joy, the beauty in life.

This has not always been easy for me.

In my former life, I saw the glass half empty.

But and what if were constants in my mind chatter and my word.

Now, I look forward to my gratitude practice, the opportunity to start the day with grateful eyes.

I kick started my gratitude practice by creating a list of 100 people I am grateful for.

At first this task felt daunting, so I wrote daily for a week, reflecting each day on my life.

I started with my present life and progressed backward in time…life with kids, life with my husband before kids, adult life before my husband, early adulthood, childhood…

I was amazed to find that when I was finished I had over 125 people on my list.

I am still adding to that list.

And you are on it:)

Wishing you well

Tracy

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What Brings You Life?

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What kind of life would YOU love living?  YOU.  Not your family.  Not your friends.  Not the media.  YOU!

What would YOU love?

What brings YOU life?

What do YOU want to do or create or be in this life?

Think about it…really…let your imagination run wild…

Most of us, when we think about what we really want, start with what we think we could do, what we should do, what our present circumstances allow, what the economy is doing, what our bank account says…

It’s time to start asking different questions, bigger questions.

What do YOU desire?

What would fill YOU to the brim?

What would a wealthy life look like to YOU?  Wealth is not just about money.  Merriam-Webster defines wealth as abundant supply.  We can have wealth in any area of life.  We can be wealthy in health, wealthy in time, wealthy in love, wealthy in support…

Designing a wealthy life begins with knowing what you really want

What do you desire?

And what else and what else and what else…

 

Wishing you well,

Tracy

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Freedom Of Choice

Creating Reality With Thoughts

You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That’s the only thing you should be trying to control. Elizabeth Gilbert

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We create the life we lead. Whether we mean to or not. Oftentimes, we create it exactly the way we did yesterday, the year before and the year before that. Like Ground Hog Day. Over and over and over again. The people and circumstances may change slightly but we have the same life, the same health, the same relationships, the same job. We may give our circumstances a face-lift.  A new house.  A new job.  But in essence, we stick with the pattern that has been ingrained in us, the pattern we have ingrained in ourselves. Our mind likes patterns.

We create the life we lead by the thoughts we think. Simple but true. If we ever wonder where our focus is, we need no more than to look at our lives.

Circumstances are circumstances. They are simply what happens around us.

Thoughts, about circumstances, create feelings.

Feelings generate actions.

Actions produce results.

Results are the lives we lead.

Good News!!! We have complete control over our thoughts. In fact, our thoughts are the only thing in life that we have complete control over.

Try this…

  1. Identify a problem you are having.
  2. Trace the problem back to a thought.
  3. Up-level the thought to a more empowering one.  A slightly up-leveled thought will feel more realistic than going from anger straight to joy.  It will also have a slightly different feel to it.  Thought:  I am angry  Up-leveled thought:  I am disappointed.

Try this with all of your undesirable thoughts. It takes practice but it will change your life. One thought at a time.

Wishing you well.

Tracy

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