A Laughing Matter

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Have you laughed lately?  I mean a good, hearty belly laugh?

It is said that a child laughs nearly 300 times per day while the average adult laughs less than 20.  Whether this is accurate I’m not sure but I wouldn’t doubt it based on the hysterics I witness with my own children.

They laugh.  All day.  Even when they are trying not to in between fat, crocodile tears.  And, especially, when someone says BUT (have you ever wondered how many times you say that word in a day?).

All jokes aside, research shows that laughter is the best medicine.  It has both short term and long term positive effects on stress, the leading cause of chronic health problems in the US.  In fact, Norman Cousins, author of Anatomy of an Illness, experimented with laughter himself and claimed that 10 minutes of belly laughing gave him two hours of pain free sleep.

*Laughing is a natural state changer.  Have you ever tried a frown while laughing?  Try it.  I bet it will make you laugh.

*Laughing increases the intake of oxygen into the heart and lungs.  There is even a form of yoga called Laughter Yoga.  It’s a hoot!

*Laughing brings us back to the present moment.  We can only laugh in the present.  And, this is good news because we only have NOW.

What is your favorite way to get a laugh in?  Watching a funny movie?  Reading a funny book?  Watching your cat try to make her way out of a paper bag?  Or, maybe it’s laughing for the sake of laughing…

 

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Be Well,

Tracy

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Abundance

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It is so easy to fall into the appearance of lack.  When we focus on lack, that is exactly what we will see.  We will find every example of what is lacking in our lives and the world.

Lack of money.

Lack of time.

Lack of freedom to do what we truly desire.

It is just as easy to focus on abundance.  In fact, it may be even easier to focus on abundance than on lack.  All we need to do is step out into nature.  There is abundance all around us.

Just the other day my daughter and I were driving through the city and saw literally hundreds of birds sitting on rows of wires above the street.  Each in its own spot.  Chirping to its own tune.  Waiting for some unheard cue to move on to the next set of wires or fortunate tree.

What a blessing.  This thing called life.  It continues regardless of our circumstances.  Grass continues to grow, bunnies continue to multiply, hundreds of birds continue to migrate in unison from north to south each fall and spring.

Try this when you start going down the rabbit hole of lack

Stop.

Take a breath of life.

Be grateful.

Get outside.  Look for the abundance that surrounds you.  Take note of all that you have and you will begin to see more examples of the abundance in your life.

 

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Be Well,

Tracy

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Shifting

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Just as a pilot makes small shifts throughout a flight to adjust for wind, weather and obstacles, you too can shift your thinking throughout the day to adjust for circumstances that arise.  All it takes is a slight shift.  Even a one degree shift has the potential to completely change the trajectory of your life.

When you choose to shift your thinking you set the tone for what you will experience and attract.

If you start your day thinking “this is one of those days”, you will find examples of “one of those days”. Your hair dryer goes on the fritz.  You spill coffee on your white blouse.  You get stuck in traffic.

When you start the day thinking “This is the day of my amazing good fortune” Florence Scovel Shinn, you will find examples of the abundance that is all around you.  You become aware of opportunities that you may not have noticed before.  It really is that simple.  You attract what you think.

Try these slight shifts when your mind starts going down the dark road of circumstance:

What if this is what it looks like when it’s all working out?

I AM shifting into joy.

I AM shifting into health.

I AM shifting into knowing.

Every day and in every way I AM getting better and better.

 

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Be Well,

Tracy

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Are You Ready?

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What if you had a magic wand and all of your dreams came true…today?  Would you be ready?

The dream partner

The dream business

The dream home

What if they were already here?  Would you be ready to open the door and let them in?

Many of us, when we even dare to dream, forget this very important piece.  In order to get what we want in life, we have to make the space for it.  Make it welcome in our lives.

There are 3 keys to creating the life of your dreams:

Decide – become crystal clear on what you desire in order to make it happen.

Believe – have undying faith that what you desire is already yours.

Act – take a step, every day, in the direction of your dream.

Ask this question.  What can I do today with what I have?

If you desire a dream home, for example, you might:

Find a real estate agent

Get pre-approved for a mortgage

Put your present home on the market

Dreaming your dream home doesn’t get you the keys.

Take a step.  Get ready.  Make it welcome.

 

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Be well,

Tracy

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Why

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Many of us spend a lifetime in search of our passion.  Looking outside of ourselves for the answers.

I met a man once who was in his seventies.  He confided that he had spent the past 40 years in search of “it”, his passion, his purpose in this life.  He was tired and he was depressed.  I could completely relate.  I had spent most of my own life doing the same thing.

In truth, we have everything we need inside of us.  It’s all here, just waiting for acknowledgement, acceptance.

So, start with why.  Learning your why can be as simple as listening to your longings and discontent.  They are a gift, a message, a sign from your deepest Self.  From that part of you that is connected to all that is.

There is a purpose for your life.  You were chosen to be here, on this Earth, at this time.  You are here for a reason.  That reason lies deep within your heart.

What are your longings and discontent?

What do you desire?

What is your why?

You have all that is needed to bring it to life.  Opportunity will present itself as you live into your why.  Make space for it now so that you are ready when it comes knocking.

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Wishing you well,

Tracy

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The Sun Always Shines

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When the sky is dark and stormy, it is hard to remember that the sun always shines.  We know this to be true, but sometimes it feels as if the sun will never come out.

While the last hurricane was stirring up the southeast, all we could see outside was the debris flying, the trees falling and the creeks rising.  The next day, after the storm was over, the sky seemed to be the bluest and the sun the brightest it had ever been.  It was a magnificent day.  But the reality is that the sun was always shining and the sky was always blue.  It was just hidden behind the dark clouds.

There are moments like that in each of our lives.  As if the dark clouds of our circumstances will never shift and we will never see the light of day.  But, just as the sun always shines behind the stormy sky, our true and shining self is always there, behind the circumstances, calmly awaiting our choice to see the light.

It may feel very real, like we are bound by the dark clouds of our circumstances.  The truth is that we bind ourselves to the dark clouds.  We have choice in every moment.  To shift our thinking and choose to see the light.  Think of the power in that.

 3 Simple Secrets to Seeing the Light:

*Breathe baby breathe  Breath is a powerful function.  It is both voluntary and involuntary.  It can be used to energize or it can be used to calm.  However you use it, it will always bring you back to NOW.  To the present moment.

*A Grateful Heart  Seek abundance and you shall find it.  Start a gratitude journal.  Make a point every day to find 3 things you are grateful for.  You will begin to see an abundance of beauty in the world when you are looking for it.

*Shifting Perception  It is unrealistic to move straight from anger to joy but you can choose to make small shifts in your perception.  You can choose to think:

I AM shifting into peace.  I AM shifting into health.  I AM shifting into greatness.

This is what it looks like when it is all working out.

 Slight shifts in our thinking can completely change the trajectory of our lives.  One thought at a time.

 

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Wishing you well,

Tracy

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A Dolphin Inspires

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I have always had an affinity for dolphin.  I look for them as I walk the beach, fly over the water, cruise out to the deep sea.  8 out of 10 times I see them on my sacred walks on the beach.  This may be because I am an avid beach walker or because I am always looking.  I’m not sure but I am grateful every time.

Years ago I watched a dolphin breach 15-16 feet out of the water.  No one was around to see this but me.  To this day, I feel that dolphin was giving me a private show, saying hello and a thank you for being there.

A few years ago we watched the movie A Dolphin Tale, about a dolphin named Winter with a prosthetic tail.  I knew I had to meet her so I took my family to the Clearwater Marine Aquarium in Clearwater, FL over spring break to do just that.

Winter’s is a story of sheer willpower, determination and perseverance.  She is alive today because she didn’t know that her chances of survival were near impossible, that a dolphin can’t survive without a tail.  All she knew was the love, dedication and faith of the humans who cared for her.  And, not only did she survive, she thrives.  She touches the hearts and souls of humans daily.

What would you love?

What if you didn’t think it was impossible?

What would you do?

What if you kept a corner of your mind open to the possibility?

Would you live your life differently?

 

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Wishing you well,

Tracy

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Creating Time

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Sometimes I feel as if I am in constant motion.  My body, my mouth, my mind.

Moving.

Moving.

Moving.

Waking my children (sometimes 5 times), breakfast, morning chores, moving everyone out the door for school, going to work, returning to school for pick up, activities, homework, dinner, bathing and bedtime.  And that doesn’t include the unexpected.  At the end of the day, if I don’t take the time for self-care, I collapse in bed only to do the same thing again the next day.

I have found that the most important time in my day is the ME time I give myself.  Through a lot of trial and error I have found 3 key ways to create more time in the day:

 

  1. Rise and Shine.

Are you constantly searching for more hours in the day?  Good news!  You can find instant hours, any number you’d like, in the wee hours before your family wakes.

Getting up before your family may sound like an impossible feat.  But, I promise, you can do this too and you will wonder why it took you so long.  Luxuriate in a morning ritual created just for you.

  1. Use Your Calendar.

Schedule your big rocks, the most important activities, first and fill in the spaces with other activities.  Self-care is a big rock.  It is more important than anything else on your schedule.  You cannot give from an empty vessel…

Take 10 minutes at the end of the day to review your calendar and schedule anything that needs to be done so it doesn’t sit in your mind and keep you awake at night.

  1. Go to bed.

As much as you would like to stay up and watch mindless tv some nights, make a commitment to yourself.  Get to bed in time to give yourself 7-8 hours of sleep.  Sleep is one of the best ways to fill your cup and a good night sleep will be incredibly helpful in getting up before the rest of the household does in the morning.

Create a new evening ritual.  Before turning out the lights for the night, take the time to unwind, reflect on your day, read and/or write in a journal.

I bet you never knew you could Create Time!

 

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Wishing you well,

Tracy

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Possibility

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Do you remember when you were young?   When you used your imagination to try on possible futures?

Maybe you were belting out your favorite song to thousands of fans.

Maybe you were bouncing across the surface of the moon.

Maybe you were flying high above the fields watching the sunset.

There was a time when we let our imaginations run wild with possibility.  We stepped into different imaginary lives.  We lived inside those lives, testing them out, returning to the ones that felt right and discarding the ones that didn’t.

Over time, though, we were trained in a way of being called condition based thinking where we let our 5 senses and our circumstances determine what we can and cannot do in life.  We let our checkbook, our calendar, our families and our circumstances rule.

We looked to those conditions because we were trained to.  We were told to straighten up and stop day dreaming.  Learn these facts.  Eventually, our dreams were stunted, squashed, left as distant memories.

But, what if, just for a moment, you allowed yourself to explore possibility?  To dream.  To listen to that deepest part of you that has been vying for your attention through your longings and discontent?

What if it was not impossible?  What if age, sex, time, money, circumstances didn’t matter?

What would you do?

What would you be?

What would you give?

What would you create?

What would you love?

The possibilities are endless…

 

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Wishing you well,

Tracy

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Letting Go

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Many people spend their entire lives believing that they are controlled by outside forces.

  • That they are bound by worry.
  • That they are bound by resentment.
  • That they are bound by something that happened in childhood.

The Truth is that thoughts don’t hold us, we hold thoughts.  We bind them to us like a cloak.  We wear our stories as if we ARE the story.  Often fearful of who we would be if we no longer carried them.

I held on tight to the story of my son’s Grand Entrance for 7 years.  It was painful, scary and kept me stuck.  I could bring up all of the fearful, hopeless thoughts complete with rapid heart beat and sweaty palms in an instant.  The darkness finally became so unbearable that I gathered all the courage I had and I let it go.  I dropped it.  And, my life became easier.  In fact, my life is now better than I ever thought it could be.

The Truth is that we have complete control over our thoughts.  We have the power to choose which thoughts we will entertain.  We have the power to refuse to give into the story.  We have the power to return again and again to the mindset that we are free to think what we choose.

We have the power to change our thoughts about a story

  • that will in turn change our feelings
  • that will in turn change our actions
  • that will in turn change the results we experience in life

Today’s mantra:  I AM in control of my thoughts.

 

Discover. Empower. Balance.

Wishing you well,

Tracy

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